Sometimes I wonder about people and their quite natural way of judging others or their own life. Is it possible that we can simply lead our life without judging anything or anyone?
I went to visit my friends, a couple, along with another friend and his new wife. Absolutely good time. Laughed and talked about their cute little three year old. Time flew and we had to leave. Suddenly a name popped up (let's say L). A person who was on everyone's nerves. Everyone's keeping quite and tolerating because of her age and with a sense of giving her space, a sort of "respect". However, my both guy friends talked about her recent episode and just laughed away.
On the way back, my friend's new wife, let's call her A, pointed out to the conversation about L. She continued to say how rude it is to talk about L when she is not around and more over, pointing out to her behaviour is very wrong as no one should be judgmental. If there is an issue with anyone, we should talk to the person and try to understand their point or make the person understand how uncomfortable everyone is around.
I was quite impressed with her speech. 100% agreed to her view of how we should not talk about people behind their back etc etc till...........
She started talking about the friends we visited and how untidy the house was!!!
The first reason we visited our friends was, the entire family, husband, wife and the three year old son fell sick for almost a month because of some viral infection and still recovering!!!! They all looked washed out and we admired the wife as she single-handedly managing to bring them back on tracks!
Now, I started wondering about this absolutely wonderful lady sitting in the passenger seat, till then talking about how rude we were all commenting about an old lady and passed a judgement that we were completely unethical!! I wanted to know more about her view on this "Unethical" ways of us talking about someone when she was not present and how different it is from what she commenting about our friend's wife who couldn't keep her house tidy.
I think, our A should have said the same to our friend's wife abt how untidy the house was. How our friend's wife failed to manage her house. Why didn't she do that? Why A felt that her comments on someone are justified and why not ours?
Many a times, in general, we tolerate certain behaviour of people we know. It doesn't mean we accept their behaviour. Many a times, this tolerance becomes a sort of habit. Simple norm of society and human behaviour is not to hurt anyone intentionally.
Who is judgmental here? Us, who didn't want to hurt an old lady but couldn't help sharing our comfortableness with each other, or lady A who knowing the challenges of others still started commenting about some material facts?
I went to visit my friends, a couple, along with another friend and his new wife. Absolutely good time. Laughed and talked about their cute little three year old. Time flew and we had to leave. Suddenly a name popped up (let's say L). A person who was on everyone's nerves. Everyone's keeping quite and tolerating because of her age and with a sense of giving her space, a sort of "respect". However, my both guy friends talked about her recent episode and just laughed away.
On the way back, my friend's new wife, let's call her A, pointed out to the conversation about L. She continued to say how rude it is to talk about L when she is not around and more over, pointing out to her behaviour is very wrong as no one should be judgmental. If there is an issue with anyone, we should talk to the person and try to understand their point or make the person understand how uncomfortable everyone is around.
I was quite impressed with her speech. 100% agreed to her view of how we should not talk about people behind their back etc etc till...........
She started talking about the friends we visited and how untidy the house was!!!
The first reason we visited our friends was, the entire family, husband, wife and the three year old son fell sick for almost a month because of some viral infection and still recovering!!!! They all looked washed out and we admired the wife as she single-handedly managing to bring them back on tracks!
Now, I started wondering about this absolutely wonderful lady sitting in the passenger seat, till then talking about how rude we were all commenting about an old lady and passed a judgement that we were completely unethical!! I wanted to know more about her view on this "Unethical" ways of us talking about someone when she was not present and how different it is from what she commenting about our friend's wife who couldn't keep her house tidy.
I think, our A should have said the same to our friend's wife abt how untidy the house was. How our friend's wife failed to manage her house. Why didn't she do that? Why A felt that her comments on someone are justified and why not ours?
Many a times, in general, we tolerate certain behaviour of people we know. It doesn't mean we accept their behaviour. Many a times, this tolerance becomes a sort of habit. Simple norm of society and human behaviour is not to hurt anyone intentionally.
Who is judgmental here? Us, who didn't want to hurt an old lady but couldn't help sharing our comfortableness with each other, or lady A who knowing the challenges of others still started commenting about some material facts?
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